Monday, August 29, 2011

Proud Sex Worker.

When reading the most recent issue of Frontiers magazine there was an interview with Connor Habib. I don’t think that anyone that knows Conner can argue with the fact that he is an extremely well educated man. The fact that he has a face that is undeniably sexy doesn’t hurt also.

In the article Conner as asked his advice to people entering the industry. His response was:

“Make sure it fits into the context of your life. When you ask a sex worker about what they do, you’ll get one of two responses. There’s the ashamed response, “Well, I used to do that, but now I am building a life for myself and leaving that behind.” Or there’s the “Yeah, fuck you, so what?” defense response. “

If you are taking the time to read my rants then I am hoping that you at least know a little bit about me. In the off chance that you stumbled on this page and have no clue who the hell I am here is what you need to know. I am a retired porn star who is still active in the porn industry and currently still a sex worker. I travel doing a lot of events for porn and sex toy companies and I also do a lot of planning and events for rentboy.com.

Being an active sex worker for four years now I definitely know what Conner is talking about in this part of the interview. I have never been ashamed or denied that I have been a part of the sex industry. While you may not agree that sex work is real work, I beg to differ. The money that I have made the past four years I’ve declared on my taxes and I have paid taxes on every penny that I can recall making the past four years. Trust me this has not been an easy thing to do, especially because I am responsible for withholding my own money to pay my taxes at the end of the year.

While four years is not a large time span in the normal work force, in the porn world it is a lifetime. Every year that passes it becomes harder and harder to make a living as a sex worker. The general philosophy that me and my roommate Austin Wilde have decided upon is that if you are able to make it one year you are doing something right. If you are able to make it two years and by some grace of god have not wound up in jail or rehab then you may actually have a good head on your shoulders. If you are able to make it three years then you are probably perfectly jaded, and in the chance you can make it to year four then you can easily be a permanent fixture in the world of sex workers.

Connor and I have been around long enough that I am sure we could easily be permanent fixtures. I am extremely happy with my life right now and while I know that I cannot be a sex worker for the rest of my life, I do not see my current lifestyle changing any time soon.

3 comments:

Haggis McBrylcreem said...

Oh, pshaw! I'ma call you when you're 60 and I'm 80 and ask for another shot of Jäger.

Anonymous said...

OH BE HAPPY & PROUD OF YOURSELF EVERY DAY!! WILL CHECK OUT MORE OF YOUR PAST DVDS.

Bong Bator said...

Just found your blog and, interestingly, I've been a sex worker 4 years, in addition to being a singer, actor and dancer. I've never met Conner, but recently found his website from Rentboy, where I'm also listed. I have to say, it was a life-changing read.