Here is my interview with Angel Benton and Robin Byrd for Hustlaball NY 2009.
Sunday, January 31, 2010
Wednesday, January 27, 2010
Don't ask, Don't tell, Don't give a shit. "We all are equal"
While every American knows about the policy of "don't ask, don't tell", it is clear that this issue in the gay community is more important than in straight community. This is understandable because in all reality gay people are the minority in society and the greater needs of the country doesn't focus around being gay.
Surprisingly, this policy affected my career in the adult industry. Many people think of the industry in a negative way, and I will be honest I have my moments also. There is a negative connotation against most people who do porn, escort and go-go dance because they have no other skills; or basically because they are such screw ups in life that nobody would hire them. I have definitely met my fair share of people that fit this criteria, but there are many that are not only good at sex. (or what amazing editing skills can create into good sex)
What I find to be an even more of a rarity is that somebody in the industry has their bachelors degree. I can only think of three people who have done this at this point, myself being one of them. Most people don't know this but I have my Bachelors degree in Geography with an Area of Specialization in Satellites and Mapping with a minor in Meteorology.
When I graduated from college I thought about serving in the Air Force. I took a test (AFOQT) to see if I qualified to be an officer, and went through all the medical steps(MEPS) and meet with officers and did everything in the application process. Then one great day in the spring of 2008 I received a letter telling the that I had been accepted to attend Officers Training School(OTS) and upon completion I would be an officer in the United States Air Force.
At that point in my life I was not out to many people, only a few friends. I knew I was gay, but what was holding my back from joining the military was a fear that one day I could not be who I felt I was in my heart. When I made the decision about my future I made it in largely based upon the don't ask, don't tell policy.
While I can not speculate whether I would have successfully completed my officer training, this policy had a great influence in deciding my future. I am continuing the pursuit of my masters degree, and I am in an industry that I currently have no regrets about being a part of. I can't help but wonder how different my life would be if the United States military would have allowed me to live a lifestyle that was found acceptable.
On a side note I think I would look good as a Marine, and there A LOT of military men that are missing out on some fun with me!!!
Surprisingly, this policy affected my career in the adult industry. Many people think of the industry in a negative way, and I will be honest I have my moments also. There is a negative connotation against most people who do porn, escort and go-go dance because they have no other skills; or basically because they are such screw ups in life that nobody would hire them. I have definitely met my fair share of people that fit this criteria, but there are many that are not only good at sex. (or what amazing editing skills can create into good sex)
What I find to be an even more of a rarity is that somebody in the industry has their bachelors degree. I can only think of three people who have done this at this point, myself being one of them. Most people don't know this but I have my Bachelors degree in Geography with an Area of Specialization in Satellites and Mapping with a minor in Meteorology.
When I graduated from college I thought about serving in the Air Force. I took a test (AFOQT) to see if I qualified to be an officer, and went through all the medical steps(MEPS) and meet with officers and did everything in the application process. Then one great day in the spring of 2008 I received a letter telling the that I had been accepted to attend Officers Training School(OTS) and upon completion I would be an officer in the United States Air Force.
At that point in my life I was not out to many people, only a few friends. I knew I was gay, but what was holding my back from joining the military was a fear that one day I could not be who I felt I was in my heart. When I made the decision about my future I made it in largely based upon the don't ask, don't tell policy.
While I can not speculate whether I would have successfully completed my officer training, this policy had a great influence in deciding my future. I am continuing the pursuit of my masters degree, and I am in an industry that I currently have no regrets about being a part of. I can't help but wonder how different my life would be if the United States military would have allowed me to live a lifestyle that was found acceptable.
On a side note I think I would look good as a Marine, and there A LOT of military men that are missing out on some fun with me!!!
Saturday, January 23, 2010
Miles Flown.
Well the deadline for me free porn contest was January 20th, and I had over 2,000 entries for the contest. Some people came close and others were so far off it was sad.
The total miles I flew last year was 183,172 miles. One person came within 172 miles of that number, not a bad guess.
I had over 750 email where the guess was below 25,000. My two trips to Australia last year totaled over 25,000 miles.
The two winners have been contacted. Just an FYI I am already over 14K miles this year, and I soon have a trip to Auckland from LA and then from Sydney back to LA. I think I just may top this past years numbers.
The total miles I flew last year was 183,172 miles. One person came within 172 miles of that number, not a bad guess.
I had over 750 email where the guess was below 25,000. My two trips to Australia last year totaled over 25,000 miles.
The two winners have been contacted. Just an FYI I am already over 14K miles this year, and I soon have a trip to Auckland from LA and then from Sydney back to LA. I think I just may top this past years numbers.
Tuesday, January 19, 2010
Sunday, January 17, 2010
Normalicy vs. Reality
I just got back from having a very nice relaxing cruise in the Caribbean. This is not my first cruise by any means, the past two cruises I have been on have been on have been awkward for me. My normal day involves gay people in gay places, but when I am on a cruise with what I will call normal society I am not in my typical surroundings. I am not saying what society should call "normal" or "abnormal", but lets face it, gay people are not the majority of the population.
When I am in NY I spend a lot of time in Chelsea and when I am in LA I spend most of my time in WEHO. I have become accustomed to living in a world where being gay is normal for me, but once I travel outside of my comfort zone I start to feel awkward.
I went on this cruise with my girl Amy, and one night we painted my toe nails. The polish is clear, but when it gets rays from the sun the clear polish turns into a ruby red. It was a fun thing to do, but as I was on the beach I couldn't help but feel like people were looking at me with a "what the hell" sort of expression. While I really don't give a damn what other people think, it still make me realize that how I live my life on a normal basis is not exactly how everybody lives.
My cruise has brought me to one of the gay mecas though. I am in Fort Lauderdale for the next 5 days doing some filming and getting back to living the life most straight people wish they could live.
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